Thursday, August 14, 2008
wicked bad at this game
it's exciting to be back in the US, albeit a little odd, it was truly strange how quickly i got comfy in China and i wasn't ready to go...i could've done another semester there, i really could've.
And it was tough leaving all the really cool people i met there
but i wanted to see my family
and i wanted to see my friends
and i wanted to get back to boston
and i wanted to get back to school and classes
so i'm glad to be back
the last couple weeks in China were pretty incredible...
we were camping on the great wall, falling into our comfortable pattern and trying to do as much as we could with what we had left
and we did we had a fabulous dinner at this Spanish place, and we went to an amazing park and found AAAART
and went to the OLYMPICS
literally the most addicting thing you could go to, cause the spirit in there was incredible!
it was like full grown adults and everyone just enjoying everything and supporting and being proud of their country which was incredible! and you can only understand this reference if you were a rotary exchange student but it's Grand Rapids on a bigger scale with sports
which pretty much makes it the coolest thing EVER
Friday, July 18, 2008
slow on the uptake
a massive one will follow on sunday i hope but until then:
test today not so great
rest of things swell
freaking camping on this like non-touristy, unkempt cool part of the great wall slash hiking there tomorrow!!!
and i'm sick but convinced that sleeping outside on a potentially rainy night is a great idea
no joke
Tuesday, July 15, 2008
little burned-outskis
it's funny though how much of my realizations while traveling don't have a whole heck of a lot to do with what i'm doing or seeing.
like this past weekend after the big midterm which i did alright on but could've done better on i guess, we went to Xi'an historical center of the Chinese world, and i actually liked it better than Beijing, it just had a comfier feel to it, no clue why
but it was rockin we rode bikes on an ancient wall around the city than wandered and shopped and ate at really cool places and saw a beautiful Chinese mosque and whatnot
PLUS we got to ride a sleeper train! big fan of em!!! not so much a fan of the fact that they can FLIPPING SMOKE ON TRAINS WITH NO WINDOWS OPEN
but overall a very fun experience
and otherwise i'm just kind of chilling, but i'm kind of resenting all the work we have to do because it restricts what we can do and see and that is ucky
i'm just such a learn by doing person that the sit and listen method isn't quite as effective or interesting for me, i mean i'm learning a whole heck of a lot of Chinese and i'm doing well i just want to be able to take advantages of beautiful nights like tonight to roam and be and find new cool places and things.
until i have more time i'm just getting by and doing as well as i can, i could stand a little study motivation though cause i'm getting to the burned-out point cause we just cover so much and now i kinda feel like i'm not soaking it in as well cause they throw SOO much at us... in short, wah wah wahhhh
in other news, i love the people i'm here with for many different reasons. but i find i care a lot about their reactions to me sometimes.
that is all.
Tuesday, July 8, 2008
supposed to be studying
~wake up around 6:30-7 ish to study for my ting xie..aka dictation
~shower and study till about 8:15 where i walk down the street about half a block to get a delicious egg/lettuce/ plum+ spicy sauce sandwich/pancake thingy (very difficult to explain, no comparable US treat)
~class 8:30-10:20 pretty standard, survive the ting xie with largely varying degrees of success; study some Chinese grammar and what not
~break 10:20-10:40 during which we goof around in the hall or go grab a snack at the little store this week our discussions have centered quite hilariously on defenestrating sesquipedalians
~more class from 10:40-12:30
~12:30 means lunch which is no longer painful now that we no longer have an isolation table for us first years and can sit wherever
the afternoon ='s various activities usually including a run to our favorite bubble tea place for a 5 kuai bubble tea
and naps and studying and recently a little bit of shopping! very dangerous! many cheap things including completely legit rainbows for 40 kuai aka less than 6 bucks! loves it!
in other news: each day i feel better about the Chinese speaking thing... and i'm starting to like it! i'm also trying to bring back the French & Portuguese words to keep that fresh!
Monday, July 7, 2008
zhongwen
Anywho, Summer Palace ='d gorgeous! i really liked being back out where i could breathe and where there were trees and where i had lots of space to roam! i need roaming space, this i've realized.
then lasterday we went to this park to interview some old people and it was really fun if a bit tough and confusing, we had some people that were less than inviting...BUT my last guy was my favorite!
I wanted to interview him because he was just chilling on this bench watching everyone and everything in this wicked busy park go by...obviously a kindred spirit!
so i went up to him and was asking him if i could ask him some questions (all this in chinese mind you) and the first thing he does is pat the bench beside him and i knew he was going to be significantly better than the previous two interviewees who could have been both more patient and understanding. ANYWHO, i start asking him my questions and he was just smiley and happy and i found out that he teaches music, but i'm not sure what instrument, and just all day every day he likes to teach or play or listen to music. but it was adorable how proud he was when after he said "jiao" (to teach) he was "teach..?" and i was like Dui dui! (right right) and his face just lit up. Moral of the story, he's my favorite elderly man in China!
But i also really loved the park we went to. it was full of people of all ages just playing and filling the big space with taichi... ballroom dancing...yoga...like everything you can imagine in every space. i absolutely loved it!
i think that's truly one of my favorite things about China is that take every open space and fill it with dancing or kite flying or something... and they just have cultural pride coming out their ears!
today at lunch they had what i felt amounted to a guilt trip about the language pledge. i mean they know we've all been speaking at least a little ying wen. anywho my final word on the whole language pledge deal is that i understand why it's there, the usefulness and i know first hand how much one can learn of a language when there's no crutch and you're forced to use what you have to learn the new language
HOWEVER
i feel like it's really truly an individual thing, and i feel like some people saying "oh can we have a drop box to report people" is just kind of breaking the code
i mean, in our family there's a code that is unwritten, but we all know it, there are things we just don't tell and you never rat on someone. you just don't it's against the People vs. THE MAN code.
and you can tell those who i feel have likely always had difficulty making or keeping friends (who aren't just like them) because they break the code, which is not cool and unforgivable in common society
i understand that we've all paid a lot to come here and learn chinese and that some are very serious about their language pledge, but i don't think you can expect that level of commitment from everyone because the problem with being a 100-level student or even a 200-level student is that if i were to strictly obey the language pledge i would likely be very lonely and consequently very unhappy. because as much as you can get from following the pledge, i would not be able to make any meaningful friendships because my language skills are so limited and i don't think you can fault other people for wanting to be able to ACTUALLY hold an intelligent conversation.
If one is very intent on keeping the english-free environment you could i don't know just say so to my face, because i'd obviously respect you enough to not speak it in your presence.
i think it just places people into different categories and it's entirely based upon where you see more worth in the incremental improvement in language gained by never speaking english or the people you can meet/get to know/ with whom you can become friends
if you can do both more power to you and your language skills, but don't get on other's cases because they can't, i'm sure they would if they could. you can't punish people for not having taken Chinese before.
that's all i have to say about that.
Friday, July 4, 2008
back
Lasterday we did it up right via a TexMex dinner and going out drinking and dancing, the place we went dancing BarBlu was full of Americans complete with flags and doofy chants, obviously because they were drunk we had a few USA chants, and a lunch my friend Matt and I sang the Star Spangled Banner with our little American Flag cake that they made for us.
I'm such a geek though i absolutely went back to my room and played a couple of really great versions and sang along! And it never fails with a good version of the Star Spangled Banner i get choked up and get goosebumps! And I always think back to that time when we went to Fort McHenry and after that doofy video about how it was written as the poem by Francis Scott Key and whatnot they play it and pull back the curtain and the flag was waving....
I just really think we have one of the most beautiful national anthems and I love so many things about our country that you can't appreciate until you're somewhere else.
And I realized that one of the reasons I'm so interested in politics is that i feel like i have a vested interest in things that benefit our country and other countries in our interactions with them. I really just want to have an effect on our country and the world and i liked realizing why.
in other news, i love beijing and love learning this country in such a different way than i learned brasil and noticing the difference response i have to both and it's just such a different experience.
it also made me excited to start my application for Geneva/ Paris/ Dublin which i am leaving to the fates to decide my final locale. I would be content in any of them and i know Geneva's wicked competitive but i could live quite happily without getting it cause my other options are so rocking
that's one other noticable thing about Beijing, i'm not thinking as far ahead as i normally have to. my daily life and all the experiences within it are enough to almost entirely consume my thoughts, which has not happened for some time
in short, i'm living and enjoying and being and staying patient and positive
and i love my friends, they're seriously so great. and there's so many different people and kinds of people that i can learn something from everyone and get so much from being with them
i've found a lot of genuinely interesting and interested people and that's always what i look for in an experience
Sunday, June 29, 2008
comfy
Thursday, June 26, 2008
lovely
life is lovely but i have to study for my big ugly test tomorrow but i really wanna put a picture so i'm gonna snag the ones we have up on facebook for fun!
These are from the Forbidden City (i'm with my fave's here -Sarah, Alex, Sydney, Jess, & Wei Lian (aka pooh bear))
i lied, Sarah's taking the picture
but no big just guardin the gate!
Tuesday, June 24, 2008
better
i'm finally able to jump into conversations and while the dictations are tough and i'm having to spend more time studying than i would want to, I am actually able to say it's gettin somewhere cause i got a 91 on my test and i feel like i'm in a good place, i do need to stop comparing myself though, it's my natural competitiveness kicking in
in other news, i feel in a much better place with those around me. i am always surprised how who i am comes through even when i can hardly speak or understand what's going on around me! aha
but on Friday night we went for karaoke and dear me, what a time! it was really great we hopped on a bus with a TON of us and crammed into this tiny room and just sang for like 2 and a half hours, let's just say there were tambourines, the Spice Girls and a lot of dancing involved.
then Saturday we got up early and ran around the Forbidden City and Tienanmen Square, which were both incredible and the forbidden city was ENDLESS! i mean it just doesn't look that big on maps, i tell you w-hat! (side note: Sweet Caroline is playing on my iTunes right now and i'm in my Beckett Red Sox T-shirt...it's taking everything i possess not to jump up and down and scream the song! Be impressed by my restraint)
anywho Saturday we finally went out and of course it was fun, good times dancing and whatnot but i almost had more fun when we were all just hanging out drinking together in a room, too crowded, loud and WONDERFUL! aha i did have a highlight of the night, and not the sort you'd expect either.
when we were at the bar there was this man that came through selling some random trinkets and you know i hate it that we've all become so good at ignoring these sorts of people...and i hate that i do it too. but anywho, i was pondering all this and am NEVER good at disguising my emotions on my face and someone noticed and then when i explained that it was because of the man, they actually went to try and find the man that had since left to just give him some money.
and i don't know, it just really got to me...i really like that there are other people who are still trying to care, i understand why people don't want to give them money and sometimes i don't either, but most of the time i just feel guilty that i have so much and others have so little and i don't feel more inclined to help them. but it was just so wonderful too to see that there are other people who also aren't tired of trying... like it's exhausting sometimes to think about these difficult things so much and it seems easier to worry more about the little things that concern us from the day to day than the huge problems of the world.
i just really feel like making one person's day IS just as important and significant as changing the whole world, because to that person, what you did could have meant the world. and was just really encouraging to see someone else that also acts as if that were true.
anywho, sunday was lovely because we found Lush, a Westerners hangout complete with Ginger Ale and Grilled Chicken sandwiches and then this coffee shop that reminded me tons of little cafe's in Montreal and will be my new study spot.
in short, it's exciting to find different things in new parts of town because it makes me feel like i can wrap my head around beijing just a little bit more! which is completely crucial to my sanity!
and now i have to go spend about 7-8 hours studying and finishing my homework...
wah wah
please tell me you're well!
Wednesday, June 18, 2008
thoughts
but anywho, after the 3rd day things are falling into a comfortable rhythm, i am annoyed that it seems like people want to talk to me but i can't understand them and they get bored with repeating themselves, which is completely understandable but sucks
in other news, i've been trying to find the motivation to do all this work, which is a lot, today we had a test on characters that we had only seen in the book and had to teach ourselves last night! we talked about them today and i think i would've done significantly better on my dictation had i had the kind of exposure with them yesterday that i had with them today, i just can't learn as well when i'm just looking at them myself and not really making any connections to anything i've done.
also, i feel out of it because of the language barrier and don't like that i feel like people are quick to dismiss me for that reason, like some people that i know well and would consider friends just walked by in a big group like they were going somewhere, i don't know where, but they didn't even say hey or pop into my room, which i guess i'm just not used to.
and one in particular is annoying the hell out of me, one of the aforementioned people who i don't really consider a friend or whatever who is always in a sour mood it seems, she doesn't even thinly veil her dislike for me, and i don't know what i have done to merit it, and i can't ask because well, i can't speak; but everything she says is condescending and sounds annoyed, we can be walking down the hall together and she won't even talk to me, she quips with any question i ask and it just seems random and mean. (two things i don't like in conjunction)
i know it's just a bad day, and that i'm letting it be so, but i dont' have the strength right now to pull myself out
and i guess i'm starting to look for the reason i'm putting myself through all of this, i know why i went, but maybe this time it's not enough that i felt like i wanted to and felt like i should... it's not that it's all bad, it's great and i do like learning Chinese, but i don't know, for some reason this environment is not as perfect as i thought it would be, for whatever reason...
i think though that maybe i shouldn't be looking for a purpose in everything in the first week, i need to be patient and open and positive, i feel like the problem is that i'm LETTING myself get into a bad spot but the problem is right now, i don't see why i shouldn't be slash what i have to motivate me to pull myself out...
and i don't like that i feel more negative right now than i have in some time...it's unfamiliar and ucky! and that's about as eloquent as i can be in even english right now.
Monday, June 16, 2008
Finally
so the last time we met our heroine she was getting settled into her digs, in attempts to get some essential items for said "digs," i went to the Carrefour or supermarket (but a French company oddly enough) and of course once we got there and were getting ready to leave it was raining cats and dogs or maos and gous; so we were trying to wait it out and then we were just gonna make a run for a taxi, and then decided to just RUN ahah obviously a GREAT idea..within seconds we were completely soaked and in a little underground pass (which they have all over the city so you can cross the streets that are like 8-10 lanes) i completely wiped out because of my no traction flip flops and the shin-high water! really i was dying, but i got up quickly cause that was some of the dirtiest water i'd seen in some time!
got back and finally met my roommate who is incredibly sweet if a little much and also incredibly willing to help me learn; i really think we'll get along swell
and i've also gotten to know some of the other people in the program better and they're really great; i'm trying not to compare them to my incredible exchange friends because we're here in a very different capacity and thus, sharing some different experiences. i think one of the biggest differences is that now that we are under the language pledge (which can get you sent home if broken and overheard 3 times) it's not like my fellow exchangers in Brasil who were the only ones i could speak english with comfortably because here it's strictly verboten
there are only 3 out of 70 of us who have no prior Chinese and are starting from scratch, at first i thought it was great, i still do but while we were still able to speak English (up until yesterday (sunday)) we, or at least I got some jokes about it, along the lines of "oh, i can only talk to you for another day" which i found very odd... and also illustrated one of the other differences between here and rotex: a certain level of competition; which is i guess understandable, because if this were my major or my only foreign language or career path i might be more serious about it all...but at the same time, i don't think it needs to spill over to other people and that if you take something like this too seriously, you miss out on some great experiences and friends
and perhaps that's reflective of what i stake my worth in, i see the value in people and knowledge through experience and experimentation and just exploring and being and others seem more worth in other things...either way i was just a bit taken aback, and although it's not the majority, and mostly came from people who i already find not entirely worth much interest; but i've gotten it enough to become slightly defensive about it all, which i didn't expect to revert to at all while here
but on the other hand i've met some pretty awesome people who are really interesting and i can't wait till Weds. @ 8 (we get an english break 8-10 in the activity room) to talk to again!! aha
i mean i really feel like i'm picking it up fairly quickly, like i'm able to understand some phrases and words in conversations and i've only had one day of lessons...it's just going to take patience with myself and understanding of where i am and where i can be, and also dedication to study extra to get myself into conversations quicker
the only thing that has frustrated me more than anything was that they decided it'd be a great idea to take us first years and make us sit at a table by ourselves with our teachers IN THE CORNER for the first 2 weeks, i was laughing to keep from crying because people kept coming up to sit with us and i had to mime that we were by ourselves until they remembered and left,
like we're already isolated because we don't speak the language, the table separation and teachers just make me feel like i did something bad by not taking Chinese previously.
i mean having been in this sort of situation before, it's really the most helpful to just be around other people who are speaking the language and try and work out what you can of the conversation... i honestly wanted to talk to the director about how shitty we all obviously felt and it was evident on our faces and in our demeanors ( i could not even disguise it and they kept asking me if i was tired, because i was spacing out and trying to not just yell BUT they say it's only for 2 weeks....( i see that as a quarter of my time here....)
i've decided today though to avoid that feeling in the future i'm just going to look at as an opportunity to ask questions and get help from my teachers, which was i'm sure their intention in the first place, as poorly as i feel it was carried out
but in the midst of all this, at the end of lunch i got the hug that i'd been needing all day and life was just that much better, it really did just make my life and i'll probably be needing one of those everyday for the first month!
and then i just went to stretch and dance to get it all out, but i had bad energy so it wasn't my best session ever...i just need to start stretching and doing little stuff every day to keep this slightly greasy food off of me! ahaha and to get out everything pent up
however!! there were times today when i was in the class and just so excited to be learning new things, and when i could feel myself learning it was an awesome feeling. i really was stoked to be getting parts of it and even though i had nervous butterflies every time i had to speak i also had excited ones and i'll let those over power the others
and you know my other favorite thing is watching people and people with other people and people's reaction to people and it's a very interesting dynamic here...amongst us students and within the city...it's so interesting to analyze people when they're in these odd and extreme circumstances and i don't mean to sound like a creep it's just CURIOUS! and as always, funny to me
in short, things are tough, i'm getting tough, other things are awesome and i love taking it all in!
Wednesday, June 11, 2008
Final Ponderings and First Impressions
On the Plane…
I’d forgotten this feeling, i didn’t even remember that I’d ever had it, but it’s back,
THAT feeling, the one where you realize you are really actually alive and breathing, every part of your body feels comfortable and real and present and content,
every thought is happy and excited
and beyond that, self-aware: aware of every weakness and completely disregarding them because of the over-powering of all them in awareness of strengths, little ones, the ones that make you who you are and are why and how people remember you…
It’s not a boastful feeling, it’s not even a strong confidence, just a self-assuredness, not even to anyone else but only to yourself. And I get it now, flying over some part of the Artic…it literally rippled through me and it wasn’t just the lack of blood flow to my legs, I’m pretty sure. I LOVE everything about this
And I’m excited for the challenges, I’m not proving anything to anyone, it’s a challenge for myself and my strength and will and comfort and patience, all things I wanna work on in my life to improve myself and be a happier being.
I also like the fresh start that comes with new people…I toy around with the idea of being someone completely different, just to see how differently people react, but that doesn’t seem very nice, although I’m bent and determined to do it someday…I wonder how much would be a different me and how much would be a different PART of me, and it makes you wonder how much of you, how many parts people know of you…a curious idea
It’s weird I’ve got like 5 more hours on the plane that I’ve been on 7 hrs. but I skipped the night….last time I knew it was like 8 pm Illinois time… then we went over the edge of Alaska and it was 9 am…. I’m getting in at like 4 PM
I’m not proud that I thought of but did not grab towels…not so bright on my part; I doubt they’ll have those for us, although they do have sheets and pillows and stuff, very curious all of it and it’s all an open ended question, I have no idea what to expect, but I’m excited
One of the things I’m most excited about is the opportunity to live with a Chinese student and have lunch and outings with them, and though we probably won’t bond hardcore because I’ll be incapable of a decent conversation for about a month; I’ll be let into their life for a bit, which is my FAVORITE part of travel.
I think these are going to alternate between novels and post-it notes. One thing I’m sure of though… I’ll sleep well tonight, if I can make it that far.
In my new home for the next 2 months...i made it! and i've since met some awesome people and had the best 3 dollar dinner of my LIFE!
i'm one of only like 3 people that haven't taken Chinese and i'm pretty sure the only one who's never been to Asia! aha but it's a great laugh and this whole experience will be truly incredible! i started getting really excited as i walked off the plane and into the airport where everything was in Chinese and into the City...it's crazy and exciting! all of it!! i can't wait till tomorrow!
Tuesday, June 10, 2008
A l'aeroport!
i was kinda scared this morning, in this weird state of shock and daze...but now, i'm really excited!! i saw some of the other students and only knew because they were in the check in and had the same UPS envelopes or gate number but as soon as i got through security i headed for coffee and now i'm chillin and charging my computer, but i realized i forgot all my movies...not so much bright!
i think i'm gonna stalk and or speak to some of the students that i stalked and make new friends!!!
Tuesday, June 3, 2008
Pre-China
i guess i'm comparing my thoughts now to what they were before i went to brasil, and they're vastly different.
i'm more scared now than i was because i know so less of what to expect;
i'm more excited because this is some place that i've always wanted to go to;
i'm just as excited that i'm going to be at a school with other chinese students, living the same way they do, with them; i know i'm going to get every thing from their prospective;
i'm scared out of my mind because i don't know anything about Chinese the language, i've tried to listen to it as much as i can, and i'm trying to use my book and cd's...but it's not the same, i need to learn by doing and being;
which is why i'm most excited because i know as hard as it's going to be, i'm going to get more out of this then i can possibly imagine